Avatar Posted by dee4129 55 days ago (Question)
I was dating a guy for over a year, he said that we are not in a relationship.I caught him and a woman talking, that night he took her home.I told him what I heard About her she is the town slut.he was mad at me.two weeks later she is gone he is trying to make up with me.Im scared to go back with him but I love him. what should I do forgive him


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Written by lilskitt 55 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

If it was just the incident that was the issue then I would say give him a chance, but the whole dating for a year and not being in a relationship that is unforgivable. He does not care about you he cares about himself. You should get rid of him and find something that makes you feel good about yourself. Once you do after time you will find someone who loves you and is worth your time

Written by psyguy 54 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Love is like a pool.... you're all the way in, or you're not swimming at all.

When someone loves you, or you love them, you simply know it. You are content with them, being with them, and have a willingness to commit to a lasting relationship with them.

Every relationship has ups and downs, happy and hurtful, intimate and cold. But a "relationship" requires this first and foremost... you must "have" a relationship.

It's obvious that you've offered your heart to him. To offer this to another is a courageous gesture. Yet, in your own words, you've stated that he does not acknowledge a relationship with you. Therefore, its simple to conclude that he doesn't truly love you. If he did, he would have already committed his heart to you.

I'm very sorry to put it so bluntly. Its not my intent to hurt your feelings. I believe you've felt enough hurt already.

Please consider this... you have a willingness to hold on to him, to keep him, to maintain something meaningful with him, whereas he does not share this same fervor.

Why forgive someone who you owe nothing to, and who obviously feels he owes you nothing? The fact that he is trying to "make up" after these indiscretions shows his disregard for your feelings.

As much as it may hurt you, move on. Find someone who loves you for you and is willing to commit to a singular relationship with you. To choose to be with him any longer is only setting yourself up for a fall.

You just keep being courageous about finding true love, don't be afraid to go swimming in that pool when these clouds part and the sun comes back out to stay.

Written by Clyde 45 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

You have to get out of there. The man says you are not in a relationship--after a year of being in one. That just means he will use you and continually use you, especially if you keep coming back.

You deserve someone who loves you for whom you are and tries not to play semantic games with you.

Best,

Clyde


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