Avatar Posted by iloz 28 days ago (Question)
My boyfriend and I have been in love with eachother for almost three years. Over the course of our relationship we've had some pretty big problems but nothing has torn us apart. We have had this problem recently of breaking up and getting back together every week, because we dont know if we want to live with the pain of not having eachother. We break up because we argue a lot, mostly because I don't know how to give him some space and step away. Which I want to be able to respect for him. He also has been getting some new friends, one of which I dont like because he excluded me from hanging out with her, so i got really suspicious. He wants his own time, with his own firends, and I think its great but I get so jealous and angry about this girl. It wouldnt be so bad if I didnt tell him that I didnt like her, because now thats why I'm "not allowed" to hang out. She has a boyfriend and they all seem really cool too, but now that he thinks I hate HER instead of hating the fact that shes with him a lot, Ive ruined my chance of being friends with his friends. We fight about this A LOT and I'm wondering if theres any way I can prove to him that I trust him, I know he wouldn't cheat, and that I dont hate this girl. Ive also read that some guys will start to see thier options and use their old girlfriend as back up for sex or something. He brouhgt up randomly that a girl tried to kiss him but he turned away and he gets really defensive when i wonder if he is cheating. He texts like three girls that I dont know, and he gets mad when I call him too much or text him when hes with friends. He makes me feel like shit about all this, but he just doesn't seem to understand my side on this. Aside from this he always tells me that he loves me and he wants us to just be together and be happy. We have an awesome friendship and I love him very much. Hes just changing, and it scares me, because I dont think he would cheat on me, but think that maybe hes looking for someone better than me.


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Written by Chemar 28 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

phew hard to answer as yes, you are possibly "suffocating" him by not giving him space but also, if he is committed to you, I dont understand why he excludes you from outings with his friends, especially when it is mixed company. I can understand him maybe wanting to do things alone with the other guys.....

you havent mentioned your age. that can also affect so much. he may honestly just not want to continue a long term "monogamous" relationship at present. It really sounds that way to me, and from what you have written, it doesnt seem that he shows you much respect or consideration of your feelings. But then, in all fairness, we are only hearing your side of things....

it may be best to give him the space he wants and perhaps start dating other people yourself. Make sure he really is the person you want.

Written by Clyde 28 days ago - Show / Hide this answer Rating: -1 | Rate Answer: + -

Written by iloz 25 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

did any of you read that its not a guy, its a GIRL. and he wont let me hang out with her. :( We break up because weve had some hard times, but over all we still love eachother, and trust eachother. Everythings fine, until he doesnt act like he cares.

Written by Clyde 25 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

You said HE. Don't blame us for you not putting it right.

The advice still goes, I am sure, for both of us.

Neither of us are malicious. We both want the best for you.

Best,

Clyde


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