I have been married for 16 years. I still want my husband sexually. Everything he does just excites me. The problem is, he is tired of me. I have tried sexting, sending him pics of me, suggestive emails and voicemails, videos, role play, sexy clothes, and just telling him how much I appreciate him. He wants me to say that I do not want to have sex with him and that I want to leave him. That gets him excited. He also gets excited thinking about me getting pregnant by another man, or having sex with my ex-husband. These things do not work for me. I have told him that. So, basically, I feel worthless as a woman. When we do have sex, it is missionary only. No kissing, foreplay, or oral, he will not do that with me. I have tried to be spontaneous, but he tells me he decides when and how we have sex.
I love him so much and want to please him. I appreciate the time with him. I am really feeling helpless and unappreciated as a woman. I am having anxiety and trouble sleeping because of this.
Notice: Psych Central Answers shut down to new questions on January 11, 2013.
Looking for a place to ask your question? Sign up today for our community (you'll need a separate account than the one you use here), and ask away!
Ask and answer questions about mental health and relationship issues in a safe & supportive environment. If you ask a question, you will have to answer someone else's first, in order to give back to others here.