Avatar Posted by musiklie 81 days ago (Question)
I've been dating this guy for about a year and have noticed when he's stressed out this "other" person comes out. Different voice, hateful, mean and tells me things like me and my bf will never be together, and I'm causing stress, and other things to just hurt me. I have no idea what to think or do.


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Written by Thumbelina 81 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I'm not a psychiatrist or psychologist but this sounds very much like another personality as in what is called Disassociative Identity Disorder or DID. You've probably heard it called multiple personality disorder. Like I said, I'm not an expert but this sounds like a definite possibility. If you have not talked to him about it, I would pick a time when there is no stressful stuff going on and bring up the subject and let him know how concerned you are about it. If he denies it is happening, you might talk to some of his friends to see if they've noticed anything and see if they might be able to give you some support on this. If it's for real, he needs to be evaluated by a psychiatrist. Good luck on this.

Written by Jane1968 81 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Multiple personality is a possibility but its very rare. I think more likely he is referring to himself in the 3rd person to disassociate himself from his rude, unreasonable, and unacceptable behavior. If his "mad self" is made out to be this other person it will be harder for you to stick up for yourself and get angry at his outrageous actions. He might have had this problem his whole life and chances are his family and friends let him get away with it, thats why he still does it. If possible, talk to a sister of his and ask if hes acted like this in the past. It sounds like he could have now (or in the future) violent tendencies. I hope to god hes never hit you, or acted physical in any negative way. If he has hit you- please leave him. And if he becomes violent in the future don't give him a second chance...men like that only get worse. And the more often you let yourself get abused, the harder it becomes to get out of the relationship. You wouldn't let a stranger talk to you the way he does. So why accept that kind of verbal abuse from someone that supposedley loves you?

It sounds like you deserve better. You deserve to be happy all the time. Whether its a personality disorder or just a behavior problem, it shouldn't be your problem.

I hope that helped,

Jane

Written by Clyde 77 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

He may be dissociating. Does he hit you, abuse you of any kind or any way?

If so, get out quick.

He needs help himself. If he feels he is not good for you, then maybe he isnt?

If he does not have good self-esteem, how will his relationship with you be?

Best,

Clyde


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