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<pubDate>Thu, 10 Jul 2008 07:54:06 -0500</pubDate>
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<title><![CDATA[Girlfriend in need of help : Family is messed up.]]></title>
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<pubDate>Thu, 10 Jul 2008 07:54:06 -0500</pubDate>
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<description><![CDATA[Since the beginning of June... Around the 9th, I came back from visiting my girlfriend out in California. there was a issue of her being depressed and semi-suicidal and resolved the issue by talking to her and letting her get all her fears out in the open. This was due to a letter I found saying goodbye to everyone and apologizing for being a burden.Well I came back to New York and on the 22nd she wound up overdosing on 40+ tylenol. I wound up leaving work early and stayed by the phone for updates and found out she was better a few days later... Her friend and her friends family, her 'foster family' are ok... Except the mother who is close to a zealot jehovah's witness and won't let my girlfriend out to do anything and keeps her in the house 95% of the time. She also disliked me and thought that my girlfriend deserves better, but my girlfriend said that she's sticking by my side no matter what. (We went through alot of issues for a year. This December will be 2 years together.)So her friend is on the phone asking if anything happened that might have caused this, (Me leaving... Duh?) and I mentioned the conversation me and my girlfriend had in front of her about the being suicidal and the note. She said she didn't remember any of this and went and told her mom that I knew about this suicide note and it upset the whole family. What's messed up about this is that she is accusing ME of not letting anyone know when it got resolved, and in the meantime letting herself be a scapegoat in the same problem. (She was there and heard it all also, so she's to blame and ignores that fact.)So while she was recovering everyone in the foster family thinks that I basically MADE her attempt suicide OD, but in reality it turned out to be alot of stuff from an abusive father and a neglectful mother and brothers. The family made it so I couldn't call her or anything and she wound up sneaking calls in to talk to me. I was broken up and disturbed by the families reactions to me and pretended everything was fine and dandy, to be her strength while she was recovering.So she comes back yesterday we talk on the phone for a bit and the foster mother goes and takes the phone and CLAIMS that the doctor said I cannot have ANY contact with my girlfriend, no writing, email or phone conversations at all.I'm pretty sure that's wrong and it's the mother disliking me and as usual not even hearing what really happened. So at this point her friend is relaying messages between me and her for me so she knows I'm there for her. She turns 18 on September 5th and being in foster care in California, I'm not sure what happens at 18, but I want to drive out there and take her back to my apartment to take care of her unlike her foster family can.Anyone care to suggest anything to help me out? There's alot of things that don't make sense here and I need help big time.<br/><br/>1 Vote(s) ]]></description>
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<title><![CDATA[What should I do?]]></title>
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<pubDate>Sun, 11 May 2008 19:33:47 -0500</pubDate>
<dc:creator>Jakribu</dc:creator>
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<description><![CDATA[Get ready because this is a mouthful lol.My family is definitely dysfunctional and it seems I am the brunt of all the family arguments. I've caused a lot of commotion because I wanted to go to college, I wanted to get out of the house, and I want to have a successful life. My dad is emotionally abusive and my mom makes me feel bad all the time and just emotionally dumps on me all the problems in the family. I have been called the &quot;squeaky wheel&quot; because I say how I feel and I tell it like it is. My 21 year old brother still lives at home and doesn't have a job, my mom stays home all the time and doesn't have the motive to do anything, my dad can't work for anybody and just sells coins for income. My little brother constantly puts himself down and has anger issues because of all the stress within the family. My dad puts down my mother all the time in front of us and causes huge fights and laughs in our faces when we are upset which has caused me and my mom to lose it. There is no getting through to him. I go home and it's just this air of depression, nobody wants to do anything and all there is, is constant fighting about money or the family getting mad at me because I say what's wrong the family, it's like I'm the only who can see all the wrong going on! I am doing my best to stay positive and fight through all the problems. I am in college and taking care of myself but now that I am home for summer I am back in this emotional prison. I feel sad and angry a lot and find myself in just a horrible state of mind. All of these problems cause me to be very paranoid and not very trusting of people. I also feel that I am just a nuisance to a lot of people and that no one truly cares. This has caused me to look for unhealthy relationships with guys because I feel like I am underserving. I also end up finding guys that are like my dad. I feel like I'm the problem a lot and that all of what's going on is partially my fault. My mom tells me that I am messed up and she is surprised I have any friends when in reality I have friends that tell me that my parents are messed up not me. I have a lot going for me but I feel like my parents would just love to see me fail. It's messing up my life, I know that deep down I am a good person but my parents make me feel like I'm the problem all the time. I feel like I'm being brainwashed and I don't know how to cope. If I could I would move out but I have no means to do it. How am I supposed to deal with all this and lead a successful life and actually be confident in who I am?<br/><br/>1 Vote(s) ]]></description>
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