Ok, my boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half, and almost 9 months ago, we had a baby girl together, and I also had 2 kids from a previous relationship! Me and my boyfriend met online, and he lived in another state than I did when we started talking. Things were getting kind of serious, and I was moving to the same state he was in, so he needed to find a house big enough. I found a house online and had him check it out, so after I got here, we got to move in, and, well, so did his mother!! The first night I met her, his brother and sister in law and their daughter was there, I thought things were pretty good, and then we left the house she WAS living in, and went to where we were staying. Well, a day or so later, we met up with his brother, sister in law, and niece again, where his sister in law got to talking and she told me that his mom didnt like me because I have kids! Well she has been living with us for 18 months and we have had so many problems. She talks about me behind my back and makes her son believe everything she says, when I was pregnant with our daughter, there has been numerous times when she has called me names, such as a CUNT, BITCH, and psycho in front of my 4/5 year old and 2/3 year old. And then tells me that Im using my kids with every man I get! I honestly cant stand the woman, she dont pay her rent like she is supposed to, she is a midnight eater, which means she eats all the sweets once everyone has gone to bed! The newest thing she does, is texts her son, my boyfriend, and tells him things like, "she is sleeping and the kids are running around" or things like that to start an arguement! She doesnt like his sister in law but speaks nicely to her, in other words, she is two faced. Because of her, we are having relationship problems, and we just dont have any privacy to have our own little family time without her. WHAT should I do? Do you think Im wrong for wanting her to find somewhere else to live? She was supposed to only stay 2 or 3 months with us, then it turned out she was moving out after she graduated, now she graduated and told us she cant move out because she has no where to go! I am to the point of wanting to leave because I cant stand to be in the same house as her and what makes things worse now and making me want to leave even more, is, I just lost my mom not even 2 months ago to Cancer! Thats another thing, she nor her son, hasnt even given me the chance to grieve, because everytime I think about my mom, I get angry, and want to be alone, but they start acting rude towards me thinking I want to start a fight with them............ Please be honest and tell me what you suggest...
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I would definitely discuss it with your boyfriend. I would explain how her behaviors have been, how she has acted towards you.
You should be allowed to grieve.
If her son doesn't choose you over her (which he may not), there may be more issues there than just with you and the mom.
Best,
Clyde