Hi there,
I am a 24 year old male who has been with his first and only girlfriend for the past 2 years. She has a great personality, sense of humor, is very affectionate and lovable. She also has solid values and thinks a lot about the future (getting married and having children). Physically, she is a bit overweight (30 extra pounds), and at first this caused an attraction problem for me. Her amazing personality won me over to the point where even though physically I might not find her attractive, the person she is makes her attractive to me. The sex is great and we connect deeply, not just as lovers but as friends and partners.
Although she corresponds to what I'm looking for in a life partner in almost every way, I can't help but want to have sex with other girls. This may sound shallow but the truth of it is that there are so many pretty girls around that I sometimes find myself feeling sad and wishing I could feel for my girlfriend the intense rush of attraction I feel when in the presence of an attractive woman.
I know how extremely lucky I am to have found such a wonderful and sane girl, but at the same time, I can't help but wonder what it would be like to be with someone else, especially sexually. I would never cheat on her but sometimes wish I could.
What exactly is wrong with me ??
I am a 24 year old male who has been with his first and only girlfriend for the past 2 years. She has a great personality, sense of humor, is very affectionate and lovable. She also has solid values and thinks a lot about the future (getting married and having children). Physically, she is a bit overweight (30 extra pounds), and at first this caused an attraction problem for me. Her amazing personality won me over to the point where even though physically I might not find her attractive, the person she is makes her attractive to me. The sex is great and we connect deeply, not just as lovers but as friends and partners.
Although she corresponds to what I'm looking for in a life partner in almost every way, I can't help but want to have sex with other girls. This may sound shallow but the truth of it is that there are so many pretty girls around that I sometimes find myself feeling sad and wishing I could feel for my girlfriend the intense rush of attraction I feel when in the presence of an attractive woman.
I know how extremely lucky I am to have found such a wonderful and sane girl, but at the same time, I can't help but wonder what it would be like to be with someone else, especially sexually. I would never cheat on her but sometimes wish I could.
What exactly is wrong with me ??
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Answers
Nothing is wrong with you. It is completely normal for guys and girls for that matter to want other girls. My advise, do more for you girlfriend, make her feel good about herself. Maybe putting all your attention and energy on your girlfriend will distract you from other girls. Also adding some spice to your relationship wouldn't hurt anything, or something to bring some newness.
Hi there...it does seem like there is an issue with her weight. Its kind of confusing though. Is your sexual attraction to other women, just a "Oh, I wouldn't mind to have sex with her," kind of thought, or is it more of an unceasing, never ending, kind of like OCD type of behavior?
It seems to me that it is more of just a thought every once a while, like seeing a woman in Wal-Mart and thinking of her sexually, then it is doing things like others might, like watching porn while your gf is asleep, or masturbating to pics of pretty, but unavailable girls.
For the most part, you sound and seem super considerate of your gf. I wish you could find a way to make sex with her more attractive to you, though.
Best,
Clyde