Well I'm in a long distance relationship with a boy in Houston, I live in Miami. We have been together for 3 months and things have been rocky since the first month. I keep getting jealous because, I don't mean to brag but he is pretty attractive and girls won't stop flirting. There was two girls that took it too far and now I happen to hold a grudge on that, just to remind him that there is always a girl out there disrespectful enough to ruin our relationship. So now everywhere he goes I tell him to avoid talking to girls because of the past and he thinks it's messed up because most of his friends are girls. I'm just trying to avoid it from happening again and it's already happened twice. There is so much more to the story but I'll stop here.
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Mariela, hi there! How is it you say you've been "together" for 3 months when you don't live in the same city? That's not much of a relationship to begin with I think. It doesn't sound like it is much of a relationship when it didn't even get off the ground without issues (the first month?)
It doesn't sound like a good thing to be putting so much energy into. There are local guys that are less maintenance and who you can physically be around and have fun with. He sounds very young and not ready to be tied to one girl, especially one he can't see. Guys are visual and the girls around him will be much more appealing, sorry to say.
It would be nice to have his as a friend, and find someone in your locale to develop a close relationship to. This one doesn't sound feasible as you'll never be able to trust him. What fun is that?
good wishes
drjean
Hi there Mariela,
Yes, I also worry about the relationship. First, it being long-distance, and second, huge problems in the first month of the relationship?
I wonder if it is the girls with the problem or your boyfriend? I am not saying either way, I just wonder--I mean, if you dont live close to him, how do you know for sure?
Best,
Clyde