My mom met a guy 6 months ago on eharmony and they're in love but definitely are not for each other. He has a daughter who I took to a concert in november and since then we have definitely developed feelings for each other. We admitted that to each other, and some things have happened between us sexually. I am so lost and she is now turning 180 and saying she thinks its wrong. I do too, but i really felt that we had a serious thing going and now we can't pursue it. What does everyone think i should do cuz i'm completely lost as to what to do?
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The whole issue, is of course, the girlfriend of yours in the relationship. Sadly, while it does matter with your opinion, she will not change her opinion to suit yours.
Is she feeling it is wrong because of her father and your mother? Or is it because of the sexual acts? Some get worried because of the sex alone.
She may not be as much attracted now as well. But, I do feel also that if you do have feelings for her, you do need to speak to her.
Be frank with her, talk to her, ask her why she feels the way she does. Do not be (or at least do not appear to be) harsh or upset on the outside, because she will be reluctant to answer you.
Trust yourself in your words, but speak from your heart. Tell her how you really feel and listen to her fears and try to relieve them. If you make a conscious effort to show her that you care and that you are worried about her welfare as well, that may help.
Best of luck!
if you 2 are not related to each other, its not wrong. have your mother and this guy married?