When I was young my mom questioned me to death and interroagted me now i feel like im doing this to my boyfriend he is wonderful but he lied to me 2 months into us dating has a past with several girls my ex husband said he never had the problem of me asking too many questionns that I didn't ask enough last relationship i was lied and cheated on the girl knew about me but continued the relationship i was so humiliated I feel im taking it out on him and im not able to trust wholeheartedly i gave myself a break from dating 9 months and thought i was ready
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Learning to trust is not easy overnight. It takes time and patience, and not running to the phone every minute that your boyfriend may be late.
Also, though, if you have not been able to trust your whole life, it is hard to begin now as well. You might really need to discuss it with a therapist or a family friend/priest in ways in which you can help yourself trust him more.
Do you feel, honestly, that there are any reasons not to trust him? You do need to go with your gut, as well. But if you cannot honestly find a reason not to not trust him, then please seek some therapeutic help in order to get that trusting factor back.
Best,
Clyde