The other day, when my boyfriend and I were going to have sex - he went to put on the condom and immediately lost his erection. This is the third time that this has happened, and I'm beginning to worry that maybe I'm doing something wrong here. He'll be aroused and ready, but when he goes to put on the condom, he loses it. He has no problem maintaining the erection during oral sex, but when it comes to the actual intercourse, it's a lost cause sometimes. It's very discouraging. What could be the problem?
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Hi there. It can be a multitude of many different things. It could be age, stress, erectile issues, psychological, or even medical issues.
Talk to him, see if he wants to visit a doctor about what is going on. It could just be something simple, hopefully. If the doctor doesnt find anything, like ED (erectile dysfunction) you may want to see if he wants to see a T to see where the issue could be.
Best,
Clyde
This one is easy to help, I have had that problem my self, from the males point of view. Sometimes the ideal of the condom or the thoughts that come to his mind can be making him feel not so big. The best thing for this is to keep his eye on the goal. You could put it on for him. That helped me and than it was easier after a few times for me to do it myself. My problem was I was thinking about what if it breaks, what if i lose my hard on, what if!! That thinking can kill the mood in seconds.