I was studying in the U.S. last year and I had a hypomanic episode. I visited 6 psychiatrists and refused to take medication because I did not want to admit I had mental health issues. I am a Punjabi (from a North Indian state) and in my community patients with mental health issues are killed or the parents pray for their death because of the stigma attached. I come from a very conservative (bordering on fundamentalist) family and I did not want to admit to a problem that would threaten my life. So my problem kept getting worse till I was court ordered to get myself tested after I had a major car accident. I was taken to India by my parents where my family told me to commit suicide. I refused to do so and then I was taken to a psychiatrist. My psychiatrist told my parents that I should be kept with them till they find a suitable man for me. The problem is that I have been educated in the U.S. (undergraduate as well as graduate) and I want to lead an independent life. My question is that can bipolar patients lead independent lives and manage well or do they need constant supervision by their parents or a spouse? I need evidence to prove to my parents and psychiatrist that it is possible for me to live independently and not be suffocated in Kuwait where I have no friends and no social life. Please help. Thank you.


3431 days ago
I live with someone bipolar who's extremely independent.

I would go about it by asking for a little freedom at a time and demonstrating that you are actually capable of independence. You could maybe get an apartment and live there for 3 days a week, then 5, then move in. I don't know if you drive, but if you don't, you can start taking the bus, then maybe ride a bike, then get a car. Taking small steps will let them keep their anxiety at a minimum and also ensure that you'll be safe, taking minimal risks. If the issue is that they just CANNOT BELIEVE that you can be independent, show them evidence of it (research it online) or ask your psychiatrist to advocate on your behalf. Alternatively, you can try and get a second opinion from another psychiatrist.

Good luck,


3428 days ago
Oh my, you poor thing. I am so sorry. I wish I could ease your pain, because I know you are in a lot of pain. Not only are you dealing with a very painful illness, you are having to deal with all that other terrible stuff. I commend you! You are a strong, strong woman to survive all that you have gone through. Be proud of yourself and use your strength to keep fighting for a better life!!

I have bipolar and have for 26 years. I am still dealing with it every day. But successfully!

You can tell your parents that I have lived independently with roomates and/or alone for about 20 of those years. I have had part-time jobs on and off and graduated from college during these years as well. I just must always manage my stress, see a therapist, and take meds(the worst part--I hate it!!)

As for your question--I think the other answer was great advice. Show them you can do it. In small steps--that will help you too. I didn't just live independentlly all of a sudden. I took steps too. Good luck and I send you my best wishes!!!

3426 days ago

You can. It will take small steps and larger time than you want, but it can be done.

Please be patient.

You will succeed.