My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years. We have very open communication and can talk about anything. He told me last night that he got an erection in front of another girl. The girl was dressing sexy, with of course, a great body. I totally understand that guys get erection all the time for multiple reasons. But my boyfriend doesn't get erections easily - I should say, very rarely with other girls. This is not pornography, not sex, not a nude girl. I am already pretty open in that I let him check out girls normally when we go out and I am not oversensitive to that. But getting hard for another girl, is that over the limit? Is this normal for men? Does this mean that he had sexual thoughts/fantasies regarding this girl? This has been driving me crazy... please help.


3270 days ago
Sounds pretty harmless to me. Some things are just erotic and arousing. It doesn't mean he's not a good guy.

3270 days ago
I agree - especially since men are visually stimulated easily. I don't think you should worry about it.

3269 days ago
You've fallen into the trap of thinking too much. Everyone has been there before, so please do not worry you head off!

3269 days ago
its cool. no worries.

3253 days ago
I dont think there is an issue either. As Bella said, and as a man, I can attest to, men are visually stimulated super easily.

Now, if he ends up spending a lot of time with her, and not with you, and that kind of thing, that would be different. But now, no worries.