Hi all,

I have a problem where I have no motivation at all. I can't seem to motivate myself to do anything. I do suffer from very mild depression - not tablet controlled - and I have self-esteem and self worth issues, which i have sought help with but haven't improved much.

I seem to struggle to be happy. I'm not down all the time and I do my best to think and feel positive. I'm very happy with all i have in my life also, sure it could be better but I am more than thankful for my lot in life (which hasn't been a walk in the park so far).

My house is a mess, I seem to lack the energy and motivation to do anything. I have two jobs which, although I love them both, are a chore to me. I would quite happily sleep my life away. I go the gym 3 times a week - but can't seem to quite get myself to a place to take it seriously. I want to pack in smoking and do so every day but get to a point where I think sod it. I get geared up to do something and then put it off. I'm most unhappy with this part of me but haven't got a clue how to change it. I just feel I have nothing to be proud of and no real organisation or motivation in my life. And I know its time to change that, but in all honesty don't quite know how to. I just want to shake myself and say get a grip!


2201 days ago
Hi - have you been officially diagnosed with depression? Maybe you should discuss with your doctor about trying medication or regular therapy. What do you do in your spare time? Are you on the computer during your off time? Can you take one day and clean one room at a time. Have 3 piles - 1 to keep stuff, 1 to throw away and the other to give away. Make a weekly list and before you do anything pleasurable, you need to do one chore on the list.

I heard an expert once say, when we're upset emotionally, often our houses reflex those feelings. Another trick is to pretend you're having company and start cleaning. Some people clean better when they put on music. Regarding smoking - are you talking about cigarette smoking? Are you eating healthy - diet can play a big part in low or high energy. For example, if a person drinking way too much pop an processed foods - naturally they'll tired/no motivation. If things don't improve after trying self discipline, then speak with your doctor.