I have lived w my boyfriend of 2me years for 1the year now. We rarely have sex but he watches porn almost daily if not daily. He does not get home from work until 10pm. I typically go to bed around 11 or 12 because I have 2 children and as any mother knows they get up early! He sits up until 3 and 4 in the morning and I have my ways of knowing he has watched porn. Plus I keep an eye on his porn stash. I notice he usually gets (rents) 3-6 dvds atleast once a week. We have discussed this issue before and he says that he never knows when I am in the mood but I did explain to him that I dont just walk around in the mood all the time but that does not mean that I don't want it. I have explaind to him how to get me in the mood. I even asked that he atleast come lay down with me when I go to bed in hopes that would help get something started, I even told him he could get back up rather than asking him to lay w me and go to sleep afterwards if thats what he wanted to do. He wont even come lay with me. When we discussed this prior he says the porn is just "entertainment" and that he does not even get off on it. So why even watch it? We have gotten to the point of only having sex once a month, if that! I feel as if he is not physically attracted to me and I even told him that. Still nothing...he swears that he is physically/sexual attracted to me bit that he just doesn't want to bother me. I have told him he isn't bothering me or that I want him to "bother" me. It still isn't working. How many times do I have to say it or have this discussion w him w out seeing a difference before I just give up and move on w my life. An unhealthy or lack of a sex life in our relationship is not a healthy relationship to me. If we dont get it together soon I will have to end this relationship. I am suffering mentally. This takes a huge toll on my self-esteem and happiness. I feel as if he would rather watch porn than even try or attempt to have sex with me!!! Advice please?!?! He is a great person and I love him dearly but this is killing me!
